Chemistry

After so many crash and burns, I have become very aware of the power of chemistry. Chemistry makes people feel "forever love", but chemistry doesn't last. I've read a lot of life coach's blogs and Wikipedia; they all say the same thing. I need to have a 10-date rule, i.e. I can't decide whether I want to be with a guy unless we've been on at least 10 dates.

So last night was my first date with Alex. OK in its formality it shouldn't be a date because he has a girlfriend. However, he did pay for my food and drinks, and the sweetest thing of all was that he brought me a box of Godiva strawberry chocolate milk biscuits. I felt so surprised and sweet that I was almost sweating upon seeing it because he remembered. He once asked me if I was a fan of chocolate:

Wednesday 12/11/2013
09:18 Alex btw, are you a fan of chocolate?
09:20 Me Yeeeeees chocolate makes me happy!
09:55 Alex do you like it sweeter or darker?
09:55 Me I like both
09:55 Me Why?
09:57 Alex haha just wondering XD
09:58 Alex not a big fan of sweets
09:58 Alex but yea chocolate
09:58 Alex but not anything of chocolate flavor :p
10:00 Me Whenever I'm sad the only thing I eat is strawberry Haagen Dazs
10:06 Alex hmm yummy!



Later that night we chatted more about what to eat. Somehow the conversation developed into his muscles and he showed me a couple of pictures of himself topless. They were indeed incredibly hot, hotter than most of the guys I've dated.

01:07 Alex hahaha don't worry
01:07 Me How tall are you?
01:08 Alex you are pretty from within
01:08 Me Aww thank you
01:08 Alex guess XD
01:08 Me I'm feeling really sweet
01:08 Me 180cm?
01:09 Alex 181
01:09 Me I was close!
01:09 Alex very
01:09 Alex what about u
01:09 Me 166cm
01:10 Alex and how much do you weigh?
01:10 Me I
01:10 Me AM
01:11 Me NEVER
01:11 Me GONNA
01:11 Me TELL
01:11 Me YOU
01:11 Me THAT
01:11 Alex hahaha
01:11 Alex I will weigh you myself tomorrow
01:11 Me What!?!?!?!!?!?
01:11 Me How!?!!'!?!?!???
01:12 Alex you don't know that i like lifting people up?
01:12 Me Do you know that I like being lifted by men?
01:12 Alex what?!???!!!!!!
01:13 Me Omg this conversation has to stop
01:13 Me Or I'm gonna blush so badly tomorrow
01:13 Alex you're a fast learner hahahah
01:13 Alex smart girl :)
01:13 Me You know I'm smart
01:14 Alex alright time to sleep
01:14 Me The problem is most guys [from here] I've dated couldn't lift me
01:14 Alex no way!
01:14 Me Yeah all the guys [from here] I've dated are small and not well built
01:15 Alex do you like being hugged like a princess or
01:15 Me I like everything
01:15 Me Omg I have to go to bed now!!
01:15 Me Why am I telling you all this
01:15 Alex hahahah
01:15 Alex what is everything
01:15 Alex you got to tell me
01:16 Me All possible lifts you can think of
01:16 Me As long as my feet don't touch the ground
01:17 Alex let me check with "101 ways of litting a girl up"
01:17 Me Hahahaha I didn't know there are so many
01:17 Alex omg i can't wait to try
01:18 Alex i think i can write a book about that after tomorrow
01:18 Me You're so much fun to talk to
01:18 Alex haha you too
01:18 Alex sleepless in Taipei
01:19 Me I can be sleepless because I only work two hours tomorrow
01:19 Alex hahah i can be sleepless too
01:20 Me But you gotta work in the morning
01:20 Alex but you'll  probably be lifting me tomorrow
01:20 Me Oh no I won't be able to do that
01:21 Alex hehee
01:21 Alex alright
01:21 Alex good night :)

We first had dinner at Sababa and then tea at Cafe Bastille. He wanted to take me for a walk by the lake on campus but it was raining and neither of us had an umbrella so we had to stay indoors. We hung out from 7pm till 1am and we both were upset that everything closed by midnight. We talked about everything. I told him everything from my childhood, relationships, Ken, Eric, JJ, etc. He told me about his smooth childhood, his parents, his family, ex-girlfriends. Interestingly, we're both introverts but we both like to speak in public. He's a toastmaster and I speak in public for a living.

Then we were debating whether a man and a woman can be platonic. He thought there could be and he said he has some female friends who are platonic with him. He could even guarantee that he would never want to do anything sexual with them. I just told him how Ivan married a girl whom he guaranteed to me that he'd never hook up with. Anyway, we had an awesome time. There was a lot of laughter. It feels nice to finally know someone with whom I can connect so instantly and deeply. I only hope he will be available soon and find me awesome. Remember Greg, PB, Eric, Rain, DK? These are all guys who I connected instantaneously but couldn't be with. I really hope Alex is not one of them.

He told me when he was 15, he bought a huge bunch of flowers to a girl he met at a prom and asked her to his girlfriend, although the relationship ended within just a few weeks. I said that was so sweet because no one has ever done that for me. I was thinking in my mind that the only bunch of flowers I've ever received was from Ivan for our first and only V-day, and it was just a small bunch of roses, and I cried. I told him if I were the girl I would definitely cry. He said he'll buy me a bigger bunch. I blushed and smiled and said, "it doesn't have to be bigger but it can come with chocolates!" Then he remembered the Godiva he bought me and gave it to me. I held it to my chest in total surprise. I said, "You remember this! How'd you know Godiva is my favorite?! I am a member at Godiva! Oh and this is strawberry milk, my favorite flavor! Thank you so much!!!"

After we parted, it took him almost an hour more than I did to get back home because he lives on the other side of the city.

2013/12/13(Fri)
01:37 Alex Hey Kendra you home?
01:37 Me Yes! I was just about to send you a message
01:37 Me Thanks for checking on me
01:38 Me And thank you for everything tonight. I had a great time
01:39 Alex thank you!
01:39 Alex I had a blast too
01:39 Me Really?
01:39 Me I feel very happy to know
01:39 Alex yep
01:40 Alex probably would have talked longer if the cafe were to open till later
01:40 Me Why don't you buy a bar that opens till 5am?
01:40 Me I would totally buy a bar if I had the money
01:41 Alex hahaha
01:41 Me You just got home?
01:41 Alex i am afraid i'll give out too much secret
01:41 Alex yea
01:42 Me  Why is that something to be afraid of?
01:42 Me Oh gosh I'm feeling a bit guilty for making you ride such a long way!
01:42 Me I got home about 40 mins ago
01:43 Alex well i am shy...so i dont' tell just everybody everything haha
01:43 Alex wow!
01:43 Me I don't either
01:43 Me But I told you everything anyway
01:43 Alex hahah it's cool
01:44 Alex now i am hungry again
01:44 Me Haha that's amazing
01:44 Me I have chocolate chips with me
01:45 Alex glad you liked it
01:45 Me I love it
01:45 Me I wanna savor it for a week
01:46 Alex btw, did I tell you that you have beautiful hands?
01:46 Me No you didn't
01:46 Me Thank you
01:46 Me You pay attention to details
01:46 Alex i was shy haha
01:47 Me What else did you pay attention to?
01:47 Alex haha your smile took away most of my attention already
01:47 Me Well...now I'm smiling and blushing at my phone again
01:48 Alex ^^
01:48 Me I just thought of another weird fact about you
01:48 Alex what
01:49 Alex [for the first time in my life that someone calls me shallow] lol
01:49 Me Although an introvert, you like speaking in public
01:49 Me Hahaha maybe I'm too deep
01:49 Alex you want to speak on TEDtalk!
01:50 Me So that makes you as weird as I am!
01:50 Alex we weirdos!
01:50 Me Hahaha
01:51 Me Yeah that's a good one
01:51 Alex hahah
01:52 Alex so will i see you next week?
01:52 Me I'd love that
01:52 Me Which day?
01:53 Alex you are only free after saturday afternoon right?
01:53 Me Yup
01:53 Me Or Thursday evening
01:53 Alex you are going wine tasting
01:54 Me Or every afternoon and morning on a weekday
01:54 Alex oh yea!
01:54 Me Oh that's right! Even I forgot about it
01:54 Me Thanks for reminding me of my own event!
01:54 Me Haha
01:55 Alex hahaha
01:55 Alex i am mostly free in the afternoons too
01:56 Me I can meet on a weekday afternoon except Tuesday and Thursday
01:57 Alex we could go see Hobbit
01:57 Me Oh that's right!
01:57 Me Lets do that
01:58 Alex Do you have a Citi Card?
01:59 Alex Monday afteroon or wednesday afternoon then?
01:59 Me I don't have any  credit card
02:00 Me Cuz I don't have a job
02:00 Alex that's right!
02:00 Me Is the hobbit out on Monday?
02:01 Alex oh...it's on Tuesday!
02:01 Alex hahah
02:01 Me I start work at 5:30p on Wednesday
02:01 Me If the movie is three hours long
02:01 Me I might be late for work
02:02 Alex wait
02:02 Alex it's on tonight!
02:02 Alex 161 mins
02:02 Me Oh great
02:02 Me Holy shit
02:02 Me That's long
02:02 Me I start work at 6:30 on Monday
02:04 Alex i have a meeting at 1900 too
02:04 Me Do you think Monday afternoon could work?
02:06 Alex yea or we'll have to wait until friday or saturday?
02:06 Me Saturday works too
02:06 Me Maybe Saturday is the best
02:07 Me We can hang out late
02:07 Alex hmmm
02:08 Me I can see you model on Tuesday before I go to work
02:08 Alex hahah
02:08 Alex no way!
02:08 Me Why not?
02:08 Me ARE YOU SHY NOW?
02:08 Alex ALWAYS!
02:09 Me So you would rather model to strangers?
02:09 Alex hmmmm good q
02:10 Alex i could pretend they dont' exist
02:10 Me I would rather teach to strangers than people I know well haha
02:11 Alex hmmm
02:11 Me You could pretend I don't exist!
02:11 Alex so where do you usually see movies?
02:11 Me Vieshow or Ambassador
02:11 Alex 我怕妳想要塞小費
02:12 Me 那你就讓我塞吧
02:13 Alex 我不是那麼隨便的~
02:13 Me 我還怕我害臊到不敢看
02:14 Alex 妳自己不看的噢 XD
02:15 Me I will take a look
02:15 Me But I probably won't be able to stare at you
02:15 Alex 看了就要負責
02:15 Me 負什麼責？？
02:16 Alex 到時候害我嫁不出去怎麼辦?!
02:16 Me Huh?
02:16 Me I'm totally lost now
02:16 Me I won't touch you
02:16 Alex haha just kidding
02:16 Me Lol
02:16 Alex oh....that's a bit disappointing
02:17 Me You want me to touch you?!
02:17 Alex 框框到底啥意思
02:17 Me Oh jee you can't see my emoji
02:17 Alex 既期待又怕受傷害
02:18 Me It's an iPhone language
02:18 Alex no...why?
02:18 Me It was a blushing smiley. It's a blushing smiley without a smile
[Then he gave me a kiss smiley]
02:19 Alex oh okay haha
02:19 Alex okay, this is really getting wild
02:20 Me I'm not the one getting wild!
02:20 Alex cuz you've been wild already!
02:20 Me HOW???
02:20 Alex Hmmm
02:21 JC Kao Hm?
02:21 Alex i dont' know, your stories
02:22 JC Kao Well my life is a crazy novel
02:22 Alex kinda surpurised me
02:22 JC Kao I didn't write it. It just happened!
02:23 JC Kao Well I only speak the truth about myself because I think life is too short to be wasted on talking irrelevant nonsense
02:23 Alex i love that
02:23 Me Thank you
02:23 Alex time is limited
02:23 Me I'm motivational aren't I?
02:24 Alex deadly inspiring
02:25 Alex alright, really need to sleep
02:25 Alex can't sleeeeeeeep innnnnnnnnnnnn
02:25 Me Me too
02:25 Me Why not?
02:25 Me Do you have to model in the morning too?
02:26 Alex haha, no, but i need to finish something before i go
02:26 Me You really have to model tomorrow!?!?
02:26 Alex not tomorrow
02:27 Me Lets sleep
02:27 Alex you sleep tight, thanks for the fantastic night :)
02:27 Me I'm feeling dumb now
02:27 Me Thank you
02:27 Alex ?
02:28 Me My brain is no longer active now
02:28 Me Cuz it's too late
02:28 Alex haha night!
02:28 Alex ditto
02:28 Me And I laughed too much tonight
02:28 Me Sweet dreams!

This totally got to me: your smile took away most of my attention already.